May 11, 2013

American Students' Di Zi Gui (弟子规) appraisal 美国学生的弟子规读后感 #2

Appraisal #2: 弟子规Appraisal
HML, 11th grader


            Given that Di Zi Gui contains such a variety of ideals and philosophies, it contains both similarities and differences to Western culture. Similarities include basic concepts such as taking care of your body and respecting your elders, while differences are met by the extremes, which are not matched in Western society.
            The similarities between Di Zi Gui and modern day Western society are matched by numerous couplets. Understanding that Confucius established these philosophies so long ago in such a different culture, it’s amazing to see so many resemblances between the two societies values. As demonstrated many times in Jin, everyday actions such as neatly organizing your shoes and socks or even walking with good posture, are practiced in America with ease. Also, more conceptually speaking, it’s important to always return other people’s belongings on time, obviously after you’ve asked in the first place if you could borrow it; if you didn’t, that’s considered stealing. “执虚器如执盈;”pick up an empty container like it’s full. Everyday people are encouraged to do everything to the best of their ability, and though a task may seem small it’s important to put forth your best effort. Beliefs and practices such as the ones mentioned above are basic concepts are practiced in every society, not just in China.
            Those who would argue that Confucius’s principles are nothing like those found in American believe that Confucius met the extreme of every situation. For example, Confucious states “勿虽小无私藏苟私藏亲心伤。” Although I agree that most things should be shared with your parents, I don’t agree that even the small things must be passed on. It’s important to have some privacy and independence. If your independence and privacy are compromised and always shared with others, how is a teenager supposed to learn how to decipher important and small things in life? If everything is shared, there is bound to be an opinion that follows, and sometimes it’s important to devlop that opinion on your own. In Western culture, teenagers are notorious for hiding things from their parents. Although I don’t agree with parents allowing this extreme, I believe that a happy medium should me met. Children should be left to differentiate between the large and small things in life, and most large events should be passed on for their parents to know about. Also, Confucius adds, “亲所恶谨为去.” Yes, one shouldn’t intentionally upset their parents by doing things they don’t like, but often it’s important for a child not to follow in their parent’s footsteps and pave their own path. American parents more often than not encourage their children to try new things and pursue their interests. This is often seen during the college process when a child chooses to attend a school different than their parents wish.
            In conclusion, the similarities and differences might be small, but Confucius’s philosophies are often recognized to be more idealistic than practical in American society.

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